March 6, 2017
Friendship is something that we all share with someone to varying degrees, and under a variety of circumstances. Friends, true friends, should be able to go through thick and thin, no matter what the obstacle. The greater the obstacle, the quicker one will find out who their friends are. With that said, with the recent divide and conquer left-right paradigm political climate that always takes place during election, lots of friendships were tested.
Recently, noticed myself that a lot of people kept throwing other individuals they considered ‘friends’ under the bus, simply because those people employed varying beliefs. Saw this take place literally dozens of times over the last six months, and it’s quite mindboggling to say the least. In fact, it’s still taking place to some extent.
All of these issues make me wonder if the virtue of friendship hasn’t been cheapened, when compared to what it was like in the past, when say, people like J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis were friends. Mind you, Tolkien and Lewis, although sharing much in common, did not agree on everything.
This increasing pattern makes me wonder whether or not what people call friendship nowadays is nothing more than a shell of its former ideal.
Ironically, the very people throwing others under the bus for being who they really are, are themselves the ones demanding other individuals to respect those very same qualities. Talk about hypocritical!
In a world where people gain ‘friends’, seemingly with every new minute, it does seem that to some extent the quality of friendship/acquaintances has been cheapened. But perhaps, by that very nature, when true unbounded friendship is achieved, it is vastly more meaningful than it ever could be.
It seems with time, more and more people just want others to be a clone of themselves. They want to talk to a mirror for the rest of their lives. They want the mirror to reply, exactly how they themselves would reply. Every. Single. Time. That’s a highly disturbing proposition.
What’s the world coming to when other people want to literally program you to be who they want you to be? Perhaps, this is taking place because from the bottom up, that’s exactly what the system does to us.
From youth, the public school system has taught society how to conform in astounding degrees. This can be seen here, here, and here. So it’s no wonder that now the people that have been conforming their whole lives want others to conform. That doesn’t justify what’s taking place, but it helps shed a shred of light unto this conundrum.
Regardless of that, however, if there’s one positive thing to take from this it is that, if someone’s not your true friend, they will just be an anchor upon your ship, and hold you back. Nothing positive can come from someone that wishes you to conform, regardless of what you believe. That simply shows these people did not respect nor value the friendship and what it truly means.
Just as a ship can’t move while being held back by the weight of a broken anchor that can’t be pulled back, some individuals won’t be able to move forward through life with people holding them back in similar fashion. That’s why it’s vital to breakaway from toxic relationships.
After all, those who really are your friends, deep down inside, will never put you through such circumstances. In fact, they will go with you above in beyond, through hell and back and always be there, right by your side, to the end – because that’s what true friendship is about.
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